Breaking the Addiction to Sin

Everywhere I go, I come in contact with men (and sometimes women) who have fallen into some addictive sexual sin. Most people are looking for an easy way to get rid of their “problem.”

My response to them is not what they were looking for, but it does offer hope in a way that only God can offer. You see, the same issue that led to our “problem” keeps us enslaved to our “problem.” Most of us are hard-core hedonists.

Hedonism is a school of thought that’s older than Christianity. It has two major tenants: first, the pursuit of pleasure, and second, the avoidance of pain. Unfortunately, nearly all of us have been formed in this school of thought and attempt to live this out IN our Christianity. It is because of this that our efforts, perceptions of truth, and conclusions are diluted.

Dying to Self

The critical issue is that our fallen nature is full of “self-love.” This self-centeredness is focuses on taking care of ourselves before anyone else. In doing that, we look to meet our needs regardless of the impact on others. God created us for LOVE, not selfish appeasement. Love always comes from God. Love is selfless and always puts the other first.

Addictive sexual sins are so prevalent these days because Satan has saturated our entire culture with sex and focused our attention on the feelings we get from this activity. In doing this, he has removed our attention from the true meaning of our sexuality and cultivated in us a desire to use ourselves and others as mere sources of pleasure.

Therefore, those of us who are looking to get rid of our addictive sin, are not really committed to “paying the price” (suffering) to be free of it. The entire reason we started the activity was to feel better about ourselves when we felt pain. As Hedonists, we want God to heal us without having to suffer any pain. Our priority has always been to find the path of least pain and suffering. Following the path the freedom, that Jesus offers, requires that we choose to love Him more than we love ourselves. This requires that we lean into the pain, instead of medicating our way out of it.

So how does this process work? It always begins with God. Jesus gave us the answer in John 14:15 ”If you love me, you will obey my commandments.” If you want to be free of addictive sin, then LOVE Jesus.

He calls us into an intimate relationship with Himself. In learning to love Him, through giving your entire life to him, we will gain a love for Him that becomes a powerful motivation to fight against yourself — to die! As we grow in our relationship with the Holy Spirit, he will empower use to love greater and more deeply than we ever thought possible.

Our whole focus of life changes as we gain more light from the truth. When we utilize the Sacraments of the Church, we learn recognize their power to transform us. As we increasingly seek to live in the truth, we begin to reject the fantasy life of self-medicating lies and actions. The Sacraments are weapons of the Church for destroying evil in our midst, let us use them!

Growing out of bondage to addictive sexual sin is the process of dying to ourselves. It won’t happen overnight and sometimes the struggle appears to be ineffective. One thing I learned in my journey was that so long as I remained with Christ in the truth, He would heal me! The journey to freedom can be long and hard but well worth the struggle. Don’t give up! Rise, men and women of God, and fight to follow Jesus.

Come, die with me, says the Lord!

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UntitledAs the founder of New Evangelization Ministries (NEM), Deacon Ralph Poyo seeks to be a useful tool for assisting pastors in training their parish leadership in evangelization and discipleship. He has traveled extensively around the United States, serving as an evangelist and speaker. Information about his presentations can be found at www.DeaconRalphPoyo.com. You can follow Deacon Ralph on Twitter at @HobbitDeacon. Deacon Ralph is married to his high school sweetheart, Susan, and has five daughters, two son-in-laws, and three grandchildren.

48 Comments

  1. I find articles like these difficult to swallow when they are all contingent on God. I am an Agnostic leaning toward Atheism, however I believe morality and the purity of the Human Experience should be pursued at all costs, if for nothing else for the sake of Love. How can I break addictions to sin when I am being told I have to know if there is a God first?

    By Nick Stumphauzer | 2 years ago Reply
    • Nick, when it comes to breaking addictions or breaking a pattern of sinful behavior I have found that I can’t do it without God’s strength. We don’t have the “will-power” or strength on our own to break our sinful habits, only God can give us the strength we need to overcome them. There have been many times when I thought I was doing it on my own and could do it on my own, but then God almost pulled back in a sense and let me fend for myself and I was completely weak and helpless. It was in those moments that God was showing me that only He can provide the strength we need to overcome sinful habits. Anytime I feel weak in trying to overcome any sinful habit I pray to God that He would give me the strength I need. He doesn’t give us the strength we need overnight, but by persevering through prayer God will eventually give you the strength you need to not only finally break the addiction, but also the strength to prevent from falling back into it. That in part is why in order to break sinful addictions you need to know God first. Hope this helps.

      By David Schmidt | 2 years ago Reply
    • Consider this, too, Nick:

      Morality and purity are relative concepts, without God, the ultimate Good, then against what standard would we judge something to be moral/immorality, pure/impure. So you may not be leaning as far as you think!

      The reason God is necessary to the discussion is that, without God, the terms of discussion are confusing at best, meaningless at worst.

      By Chip Jones | 2 years ago Reply
    • Hi Nick, I wanted to tell you that while there’s a small chance you would be able to break this addiction on your own, it will be a lot better to do it with God’s help. Coming from someone who suffered from her own addictions, I know how good it feels to not only conquer issues, but to receive the healing and forgiveness I so desperately needed. Also, I’m sure you have your reasons for not believing in God. I myself have some friends who are borderline agnostic/atheists. I have to say though that life is so much more joyful with God. I didn’t say easier, no, definitely not. I’m always challenged to take the harder road. I’ve discovered though that the more I learn about God, the more fulfilling, purposeful, and meaningful life is. And the harder road has usually led to lasting joys, not just temporary pleasure. I’ll leave you with that.
      I will truly be praying for you, (and if you do decide that you believe in God more, I ask please for your prayers too!)
      -Olivia

      By Olivia Welch | 2 years ago Reply
  2. Thank you Deacon Ralph for sharing this

    By Jeff Mc Keough | 2 years ago Reply
  3. Great inspirational words, a number of people need such words to inform them of their action which have seem to have became a norm though it should be seen as sin. We have been engulfed In this sin to such an extent that conviction has faded even in people who wr brought up in Christ and received all the sacraments. We need to be reminded how to use these God given sacrament as arsenal to fight this sin.

    By Munemo | 2 years ago Reply
  4. The best anyone can do is to pray. The hardened porn addict will try to stay well hidden, and hard to get to speak to. Prayer to Our Blessed Mother, and Prayer before the Blessed Sacrament are hard to top.

    By Peter Shafton | 2 years ago Reply
    • where is the bible does it teach about praying to any mother, Jesus tought us to pray to the father through him!

      By me | 2 years ago Reply
      • Not that this is an apologetics thread, but Jesus taught us to pray to the Father *the same way* as Him.

        And asking God’s mother for her help in prayer is about the same as me asking you, except that I know Mary is in Heaven with God, and so can intercede for us directly with her Son. Why would you *not* ask her to pray for you too?

        By Chip Jones | 2 years ago Reply
        • this is not biblical, should we pray to Paul also, we are to pray to GOD who hears us, not a dead human, this is a heresy that’s why!
          You have missed the whole point of what Christ has done for you, he Died so that YOU can pray directly to the father, you do NOT need anyone to pray on your behalf, Jesus even said this.
          Dont follow the teaching of man, follow GOD his words are clearly writen in the Bible, read it and see, dont listen to anything else.

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
          • 2 Kings 19:13-21. We see the role of the Queen Mother in the Kingdom of David. The Queen was not the wife of the King, the Queen was the mother of the King. We also see that Solomon honored his mother, bowed to her and gave her a seat at his right (a place of authority). The people in the Kingdom would go to the Queen and ask for her to go to the King and advocate for their needs. This is the same approach that Catholics take with Mary. Because Jesus is the King of Heaven and Earth, Mary inherits the Kingdom as Queen Mother. She is given a place of honor in the Kingdom and respected and honored by Her own Son. She sits at His right, and we can go to her and ask her to advocate for our needs to the King. Calling the role of Mary in the Kingdom unbiblical shows a total lack of understanding of the Scriptures. Mary is prophesied in Genesis, is alluded to throughout the Old Testament and in the Prophets. She plays a huge role in the story of salvation in the New Testament and is alluded to again in the Book of Revelation. Mary is one of the most significant people in the Divine Pedagogy. Disrespecting Mary’s role in the Kingdom is to disrespect Christ as well.

            By Everett | 2 years ago
        • and NO its not the same as asking me to pray for you, you asking a dead person, this is EVIL..~

          Deuteronomy 18:11 tells us that anyone who “consults with the dead” is “detestable to the Lord.”

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • Be born again, and you too can know the father personaly. He is knocking at your door.

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • whatever you ask the Father in my name He will give you, Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask and you will receive, that your joy may be full.” (John 16:23

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • people in heaven praying for us is not the same as you praying to people in heaven….

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • consulting (talking – Praying) with the dead” is “detestable to the Lord.” Deut 18:11

          You ether beleive the bible, what God thinks or you dont…!
          I do..

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • When i talk to GOD, he talks back to me, its a real 2 way conversation, a relationship, what relationship is there with the dead, who can not speak?

          Knowing the true and “LIVING” god is about relationship, KNOWING” him personally.

          Why would you waist a moment trying to send a message to a dead person when you can speak directly to the father… or maybe you cant?

          If you cant, then be born again, ask for the Holy Spirit in the name of Jesus Christ. Then you will hear what the father says to you personally.

          By me | 2 years ago Reply
          • If you agree with the bible that those in heaven are offering your prayer petitions to God (Rev 5:8), how did they get these petitions? Did you give them to God, and then God gave them to the saints in heaven, and now the saints are giving them back to Him? Sounds like heavenly hot-potato! 🙂 Those in heaven are not dead, but are more alive in Christ than we are. Consider the transfiguration. Also, the fervent prayer of a righteous person is very powerful (Jas 5:16), and it’s no more of a “waste of time” to ask their prayers than it is a waste of my time to ask for yours. The idea that the saints in heaven are a disconnected, indifferent, deaf, and stagnant part of the body of Christ is a protestant invention, and does not represent the bible or historic Christian teaching. It’s not Christ OR his body. It’s both.

            By Admin | 2 years ago
          • I never implied saints in heaven are a disconnected, indifferent, deaf, and stagnant.

            I simply said what the bible says in black and white about communication to the dead, don’t ignore what is written,
            “consulting with the dead” is “detestable to the Lord.”

            “For there is one God, and one mediator between God and man, the man Christ Jesus;” -I Timothy 2:5

            Saints are not our mediator between us and GOD, there only ONE mediator, JESUS, fact. !

            If you pray to dead humans are you saying they are omniscient and can hear and see all that GOD sees, you are putting them at the same level.
            Why steal Gods Glory and time of prayer that he wants from you to give to saints? why would you not spend all the time in pray with HIM who hears you and is you GOD?

            By me | 2 years ago
          • If you could just quote a part of the NT for me where someone on earth prayes to a dead saint please?

            By me | 2 years ago
          • If it’s a sin to communicate with those who have gone before us, then Jesus must have sinned in communicating with Moses and Elijah. He is not God of the dead but of the living. Jesus is not a necromancer. He knows that the body of Christ extends beyond the grave, and revealed to the apostles how alive the saints are. The book of Revelation is clear that that those in heaven are aware of what is happening on earth. This does not require omniscience on their part, but rather that their knowledge be increased, as Paul said would happen in heaven.

            By Admin | 2 years ago
          • Please see http://jimmyakin.com/praying-to-the-saints for ample biblical evidence of the intercession of the saints. Also, keep in mind that the tradition of Sola Scriptura is missing from the bible (as is the NT table of contents, the word Trinity, etc).

            By Admin | 2 years ago
  5. I think this idea is good because prayer is always necessary, but it’s also important to remember that addictions are not always the “fault” of the addict. Counseling, new coping strategies, and community support are important for recovery, especially with sexual addictions that involve chemicals in the brain. No one should feel like they are failing because they aren’t trying hard enough or aren’t close enough to God.

    By loved15 | 2 years ago Reply
  6. Thanks for this. I find this blog vague though, given that there’s no clear guidance given on following God, loving Him, leaning into the pain…all of which the blogger says are steps to breaking the addiction to sin. I don’t know if anyone else sees it like I do but this is just my opinion

    By Diana | 2 years ago Reply
  7. @Admin, don’t run away from this closing the thread…, i asked you to please quote one place that a anyone prayed to another saint, you used the transfiguration as an example,

    Jesus is GOD and can do what he likes, are you putting yourself in his level.?
    Do you also think you have the ability to forgive sins for the world as well?
    Also He was not praying to the dead. He was talking in the earthy realm to the resurrected Moses and and translated Elijah. These man where actually on the ground in this world., Jesus never once, on any accusation prayed to any saint..

    By me | 2 years ago Reply
    • Jesus is God, and God never sins. Therefore, not all communication with the dead is a sin. No, I am not putting myself on par with God. After all, “pray” does not mean worship. It means “to ask.” Do some people have the power to forgive sins? Jesus clearly gave this power to the apostles in John 20:21-23. In a similar way, he shared his power to heal, exorcize etc… It’s all His power, working in and through (and sometimes despite) His body, the Church.
      PS – did you read the link above?
      Also, how do the saints in heaven get our personal petitions, and why would God want them and the angels to give him our requests (Rev 5:8, 8:3)?

      By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
      • “how do the saints in heaven get our personal petitions, and why would God want them and the angels to give him our requests”

        HE(GOD) tells them, you cant believe that people in heaven are omniscience and can read you mind here on earth..

        I’ll answer you question when you answer mine, show me where in the bible that a believer prays to a dead believer ?

        By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • If God tells them our petitions (or gives them knowledge of our petitions), then it doesn’t require omniscience on their part to know our prayers. In regards to biblical evidence, I believe that it is clear from the Scriptures that the people in heaven know our petitions and give them to God, and that their prayers are very powerful. Disbelieving in this is a modern protestant tradition. Also, your question rests on the premise that everything we need to know as believers is explicit in the bible. This is an unbiblical idea for three reasons: 1. It’s not in the bible. 2. The bible itself does not even offer an inspired table of contents. Christians believe there are 27 books in the NT because the Catholic Church in the year 382 selected that canon. 3. The bible commands us to hold fast to oral traditions of the Church that are not in the bible (1 Thess 2:15, 1 Cor 11:2).

          By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
          • WOW, the logic here, you pray and GOD hears, and tells saints then they tell him..? wow.. very solid doctrine here have.

            By me | 2 years ago
          • No, I believe they hear our prayers, and God gives them this capacity, like he gives us the capacity to hear one another on earth. If this isn’t the case, how to we explain Rev 5:8, which shows them giving God our petitions? Please answer this. Why are “dead” people in heaven offering our prayers to God? I don’t think protestants can offer an adequate explanation of this, because they jettisoned the ancient Christian teaching of the intercession of the saints a few centuries ago.

            By Admin | 2 years ago
          • it says in 1:cor 11:2 that we are to maintain HIS (Paul’s) authoritative orders. Where again i ask you for a 3rd or 4th time does it PAUL or any other believer pray to a dead person in the bible? Will you not answer? Paul never said to hold to traditions that would be invented 200 years from his time.. where are you getting all this teaching from men, not GOD
            As for the cannon, these books existed long before 300 AD,

            If the Roman Catholic church gave the world the Bible, then why did Rome reject or question the inspiration of James and Hebrews , but then later accept it?
            Also, Rome accepted as scripture books that were later rejected. If the Catholic church really is illuminated by the Holy Spirit so that men can trust her as “God’s organisation”, why was she so wrong about something so simple? Should not the “Holy See” have known?

            By me | 2 years ago
          • How are you to know Paul’s unwritten oral traditions if you only accept what is explicit in the bible? For example, every early Christian baptized babies (and the only early debate was whether or not you needed to wait until the 8th day after birth. Every early Christian writer interpreted John 3:5 as referring to baptism, and its impossible to find an exception to this for at least the first 500 years of Christianity.) Yes, the books of the bible existed before 382, along with countless other writings, like Paul’s letter to the Laodiceans and the Didache. How do you know what books belong in the NT if the Bible is the sole rule of faith? It’s an illogical position to hold. The Church never rejected the inspiration of James or Hebrew. Luther, however, said if it were up to him, he’d throw “Jimmy” in the stove (the book of James. What books are you saying that the Church declared are inspired and then changed its mind? The bottom line is this: Whose authority do you trust to interpret the bible? The bible says to obey your bishop. Do you? Protestants love the bible (as they should), but all disagree with each other because they say God will tell them the truth and they don’t need the authority of the Church. As a result, they have formed 30,000 denominations that disagree with one another. This sincere but obvious doctrinal chaos isn’t God’s plan for his Church.

            By Admin | 2 years ago
          • If the Catholic church, “by her own inherent God given power and authority” gave the world the Bible, why did she not get it right the first time? Why did the Roman Catholic church wait until 1546 AD in the Council of Trent, to officially add the Apocrypha to the Canon?

            By me | 2 years ago
          • The deuterocanonical books are listed in the Council of Rome in 382 that declared the NT canon, and they’re also in Christian bibles for the first 1500 years. If they weren’t there, Luther would not have felt the need to remove them.

            By Admin | 2 years ago
  8. As for REV 5, these saints are now priests along with Christ, but here is the thing, those 24 elders are those who washed their robs in the blood of the lamb, as Heaven is outside of this earthly time domain you are actually praying to me!, because i am one of the elect saints who washed their sin in the blood of the lamb.
    If you ask me to pray to those saints, then that is like praying to myself, there is not logic or order in this, This is why i cant find Jesus, or Paul praying to anyone except GOD

    By me | 2 years ago Reply
    • Yes, heaven is not bound by our time zones, but its clear that these are martyrs who are interceding for Christians who are still on earth. Again,”pray” means to ask, not “to worship.” Rev 7:13 shows John (while living) talking to dead people in heaven.

      By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
      • RE: “Yes, heaven is not bound by our time zones, but its clear that these are martyrs who are interceding for Christians who are still on earth. Again,”pray” means to ask, not “to worship.” Rev 7:13 shows John (while living) talking to dead people in heaven.”

        These saints are the church after Christ takes them in to heaven, they are praying for those who are slain in the tribulation after the church. They are not there in your NOW, in this moment they are not there for you, as this takes place at the end of the age.

        By me | 2 years ago Reply
        • Why are they praying for the slain? Isn’t this praying “for” the dead? Sounds too Catholic.

          By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
    • Both Tertullian and Jerome gave a list of oral traditions that were not found in the Bible.

      These include:

      1.baptising by immersion three times,
      2.giving the one baptised a “drink of milk and honey” then forbidding the person from taking a bath for a week,
      3. kneeling in Sunday mass was forbidden,
      4. the sign of the cross was to be made on the forehead.

      Jerome, echoing Tertullian, said that these “observances of the Churches, which are due to tradition, have acquired the authority of the written law”.
      Why does the Catholic church not immerse thrice and allow kneeling? Why do both the Roman Catholic Churches not keep any of these traditions.

      Why do Roman Catholic churches today have knelling rails in front of every pew? If the “apostolic tradition” was to make the sign of the cross on the forehead, why do Catholic churches change this to the current practice of the sign on the chest and head? If extra-biblical oral tradition is to be followed, then why don’t the Roman Catholic churches practice all of these things?

      Its a slippery slope once you start letting man make up the rules.. this is not sound doctrine, this is man playing GOD

      Scripture teaches us that false teachings would arise even from among church leaders and that Christians were to compare the teachings of these later church leaders with Scripture, which alone is cited in the Bible as infallible.

      By me | 2 years ago Reply
  9. You’re failing to make a distinction between disciplines which can change, and doctrines, which cannot. If a dad makes a rule that kids will mow the lawn on Monday, that’s the law because you obey your father. If he changes it to Tuesday, you still honor your father. There’s no intrinsic eternal law about the day to mow the lawn, but the eternal law to honor the father is what’s considered. Yes, some disciplines change over time. For example, do you abstain from the meat of strangled animals and from blood, like the NT commands? Odds are, you have no qualms (morally) about eating black pudding.

    The Bible says the Church is the “pillar and foundation of truth” 1 Tim 3:15, and that we need to obey our spiritual leaders and defer to their authority. Heb 13:17. Modern unwritten traditions like Sola Scriptura allow modern Christians to disregard these verses and become their own authority on every passage. Such a maverick approach to biblical interpretation would not have sat well with the bishops in the New Testament, who taught with the authority of Christ before the NT writings were even completed.

    By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
    • So you are saying Praying to the dead is discipline NOT a doctrines?. Pretty serious thing to be so half hearted about, what if you are wrong and its demonic?, what if it says in God’s law not to do it?

      YES the Church is the pillar and foundation of truth, but in your blindness, you are not listening to her, you are are listening to the traditions of a hijacked Church,
      The devil tried to kill off all the Christians, throwing them to the lions, but they kept on coming, more and more…so he came up with a cunning plan,

      ” I know.. ill legalise the church I’ll stop hunting them and join them!, I’ll infiltrate it, and fill it with disciplines and false teaching, ill even make them pray to the dead…anything to stop them praying to their god!”

      By me | 2 years ago Reply
      • No, I’m saying the examples you gave are merely disciplines, which every denominations has in varied ways. It’s like me taking a random protestant tradition from the year 1750 and using it to discredit what you’re saying. I don’t feel it’s a sound argument.
        Also, who are the “Christians” you mention who were thrown to the lions? If you read their writings, you’ll notice they were all Catholic. None taught the rejection of infant baptism, sola scriptura, or other modern protestant traditions. Also, asking saints to pray for us does not stop any of us from praying to God any more than me asking you to pray for me stops me from seeking the face of God.

        By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
  10. Dear Admin…Friend, I will stop now, i really liked your article and agreed with almost all until the Mary part.
    I never meant for a debate or to hijack the comments, i only asked a simple question , where in the bible does anyone pray to the dead? A question you could not answer.

    Instead you gave me the run around that it was tradition pasted down through the church, yet, i proved historically that traditions of the catholic church keep changing and they are cant make up their minds.
    I agree with you about the many denominations of Protestants, but there really are not that many the rest are cults of satan that are wolfs to trap the weak., all those that are in Christ and spirit filled, all agree with each other on salvation though Grace alone and that the word of God as infallible, That Jesus is the one who intercedes on our behalf,
    We do disagree on minor things like what translation to use (KJV, NIV etc), one glass for Communion or many, Women Teachers or not. Working on Sundays..
    But we all agree, that we do NOT pray to dead people WE the true church of Jesus pray to GOD, and only HIM through Christ Jesus.

    This is why we protested, because man can not control GOD’s people.
    The bible does not say to obey your bishop, it says to listen to your church leaders, in that physical place, there is no head of the Church but Christ Jesus. Open your eyes,

    “What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; just as God said, “I WILL DWELL IN THEM AND WALK AMONG THEM; AND I WILL BE THEIR GOD, AND THEY SHALL BE MY PEOPLE. 17″Therefore, COME OUT FROM THEIR MIDST AND BE SEPARATE,” says the Lord. “AND DO NOT TOUCH WHAT IS UNCLEAN; And I will welcome you. 18″And I will be a father to you, And you shall be sons and daughters to Me,” Says the Lord Almighty
    2 cor:6-16

    By me | 2 years ago Reply
    • My friend in Christ,
      You’re not hijacking anything. The comments exist for this reason: charitable discussion. You asked me where the bible shows people praying to the dead, and I showed you how people in heaven bring our petitions to God, how an apostle communicated with the dead. In all respect, I asked you many questions, but you did not answer. That’s okay.
      The Church does not vacillate in her doctrines (but they become more clear over time – like the Trinity, the canon of Scripture, etc), but disciplines do change, since they’re just manmade traditions. But, not all manmade traditions are bad — just those that nullify the word of God, like the rejection of the authority of bishops in favor of forming 30,000 denominations. The Bible does say very clearly to “Obey” your spiritual leaders. The KJV says “Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls.” So, when a Christian disregards something ALL Christian leaders have agreed upon for 1900 years (like the immorality of contraception), we can be sure that they do not share the mind of Christ.

      The Catholic Church agrees with you that we’re saved by grace, not by our own works, that Jesus intercedes for us with the Father, and that the Bible is without error. The vast majority of people who call themselves Christians believe all of this. But let’s not ignore the fact that protestants who agree with these things disagree on huge issues, not just bible translations and minor disciplines. Such disagreement is inevitable when each believer becomes his own bishop. The lack of authority and obedience is very appealing to the modern mind.

      By Admin | 2 years ago Reply
  11. In the gospel of matthew Jesus says a paradox that I think goes well here: For whoever wants to save their life[f] will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. (matthew 16 25) We all only think about ourselves as humans. Humans are naturally selfish under the school of Hedonism which you referenced earlier. But if we “took up our own crosses” as Jesus calls the rich man to do in one of his parables, then we would find happiness while suffering for others. If we lived for the hapiness of others, then we would find that our own happiness would be achieved. If we continue to sin then we are often hurting other people, and therefore hurting our chances of getting to a state of happiness. I mean the main example of porn, which is what the image above suggests can hurt many women. Sex trafficking is still a major issue that many people turn a blind eye too. But as you said JEsus is calling us to die with him. but die, so that we may be reborn. and become an angel in heaven. As stated in John 3 each man must be born again.

    By Samuel Wakeman | 2 years ago Reply
  12. Amen!

    By Janique | 2 years ago Reply
  13. Great blog! Thank you for sharing this to us Rev. Ralph.

    These statements strikes me most…

    “The Sacraments are weapons of the Church for destroying evil in our midst, let us use them!”

    “…as I remained with Christ in the truth, He would heal me! The journey to freedom can be long and hard but well worth the struggle. Don’t give up! Rise, men and women of God, and fight to follow Jesus.”

    By Rudy | 2 years ago Reply

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