How to use the Bible to Pray For Your Future (or Current) Spouse

Praying for my future spouse was one of the keys to my decision to stay pure as a teen. Ultimately, years later we discovered that my decision to dedicate myself to these prayers coincided with the date of the spontaneous conversion of my Husband-To-Be. A few years ago during a speaking engagement, a woman asked how I pray for my husband now. [Insert awkward bumbling shuffle here] It’s great how sometimes the Holy Spirit communicates by calling me out in front of a room full of people.

Thankfully I got back in the saddle along with my Bible and prayer journal. I developed a fail-proof, practical plan for praying Scripture over my husband. Once again, I found that my heart would be set afire! Here are some of the verses from my own journal that may benefit you and you

For (future or current) spouse:

                                                                General Petitions

  1. PurityColossians 3:5- Put to death, then, the parts of you that are earthly: immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and the greed that is idolatry.

 Prayer prompt: Ask that your spouse will be pure for all the right reasons: love, knowledge, and affection for Christ. Pray that he/she will know that sin isn’t breaking a rule, but breaking a heart.

  1. HealingPsalm 147:3– He heals the brokenhearted, binding up their wounds.

Prayer Prompt: We all have wounds, but God can bring a greater good out of every evil.

  1. Mutual Forgiveness1 Peter 4:8– Above all, let your love for one another be intense, because love covers a multitude of sins.

Prayer Prompt: Ask that love will be the source of all you do, when things are good and when they are hard.

  1. ProtectionPsalm 91:14-15– Because he clings to me I will deliver him; because he knows my name I will set him on high. He will call upon me and I will answer; I will be with him in distress; I will deliver him and give him honor.

Prayer Prompt: Invite the Holy Spirit to be a shield and guard over every aspect of your spouse’s life!

  1. ThanksgivingPhil 1:3-6- I give thanks to my God at every remembrance of you, praying always with joy in my every prayer for all of you, because of your partnership for the gospel from the first day until now. I am confident of this, that the one who began a good work in you will continue to complete it until the day of Christ Jesus.

Prayer Prompt: Offer God gratitude for the vocation He has or will provide. Ask that you will be a vessel as God continues the good work He has begun in your spouse.

  1. Trust in the LordPhil 4:6-7- Have no anxiety at all, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God. Then the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

Prayer Prompt: Stress isn’t from God. Ask for the peace of Christ to envelop your spouse.

  1. Godly MarriageTobit 8:7– Now, Lord, you know that I take this wife of mine not because of lust, but for a noble purpose. Call down your mercy on me and on her, and allow us to live together to a happy old age. Bless us with children.

Prayer Prompt: ‘Nuff said. This is the desire we all have for our spouse and marriage!

Covering Him/Her From Head to Toe

  1. MindRomans 12:2- Do not conform yourselves to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and pleasing and perfect.

Prayer Prompt: The battle begins on the inside! Pray for purity of mind for your spouse!

  1. EyesMatthew 6:22-23- The lamp of the body is the eye. If your eye is sound, your whole body will be filled with light; but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be in darkness. And if the light in you is darkness, how great will the darkness be.

Prayer Prompt: Ask for protection and triumph over pornography and images that have entered your spouse through his/her eyes.

  1. Mouth- Luke 6:45- A good person out of the store of goodness in his heart produces good, but an evil person out of a store of evil produces evil; for from the fullness of the heart the mouth speaks.

Prayer Prompt: That your spouse’s words will be proof that their heart is filled with the Lord.

  1. EarsJohn 10:27- My sheep hear my voice; I know them, and they follow me.

Prayer Prompt: There are many voices in the world competing for your husband/wife’s attention – ask that the Lord will make His voice known.

  1. HeartPsalm 73:6– Though my flesh and my heart fail, God is the rock of my heart, my portion forever.

Prayer Prompt: Invite the Lord to give you both His heart to love one another.

  1. ArmsGenesis 2:24– That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.

Prayer Prompt: As you cling to one another now or in the future, ask that your embrace will always draw you closer to the Lord.

  1. FeetPsalm 37:31– God’s teaching is in his heart; his steps do not falter

Prayer Prompt: Invite the Lord to guide the discernment of your spouse in every aspect of his/her life.

  1. Ring FingerMark 10:9– Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.

Prayer Prompt: Pray for faithfulness in a faithless world. God wants to write your love story from now until death. Surrender your (current or future spouse) along with your fears and pray that neither of you will ever forget that there are three members to your marriage!

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katieKatie Hartfiel is the author of Woman In Love, which chronicles how developing a relationship with the Lord as her First Love allowed Him to mold her for her Second Love (vocation). Katie received her Theology degree from Franciscan University of Steubenville. She served as a youth minister for seven years in Houston, where she now resides with her husband, Mark, and two daughters. For more on Katie and her books, visit www.womaninlove.org.

32 Comments

  1. Beautiful!! May I translate it to spanish?

    By Cristina | 1 year ago Reply
    • Yes please!

      By Katie hartfiel | 1 year ago Reply
    • I would love this in Spanish for a dear friend, any chance of that??

      By Michelle | 1 year ago Reply
  2. my friend & i were just talking about praying for our future husbands but we both don’t know how to start… indeed, this is an answer to our prayer… maraming salamat, katie! 🙂

    By Csheri | 1 year ago Reply
  3. Love this!!! I actually started praying for my future husband using scripture at the beginning of the year and it is doing so much for my Faith life and patience in waiting to meet him

    By Nikki | 1 year ago Reply
  4. This is so great!

    By Mountain2valley | 1 year ago Reply
  5. Katie! You NAILED IT! It’s not a coincidence that two nights ago I decided to write down petitions for each decade of the Rosary which were the majority of what you wrote here! If you don’t have this in your current book, please add it down the line! :)Bless you!

    By Michelle | 1 year ago Reply
  6. Another author from Franciscan University of Steubenville: I really admire you all. You make faith alive and liveable: chastity is a forgotten virtue but people filled with the Holy Spirit witness to it. Thanks.

    By Sr. Athens | 1 year ago Reply
  7. What a great article! I like it so much, so I’ve translated it into Spanish. I hope that it’ll be okay and there weren’t many mistakes!

    ¿Cómo usar la Biblia para rezar por tu futuro/a (o actual) marido/esposa?

    Rezar por mi futuro marido fue una de las claves de mi decisión para permanecer pura en la adolescencia. Básicamente, años más tarde descubrimos que mi decisión de dedicar estas oraciones coincidía con la fecha de la espontánea conversión de mi prometido. Hace pocos años, durante una conferencia, una mujer preguntó cómo rezo ahora por mi marido. [Insert awkward bumbling shuffle here (I don’t know how to translate this into Spanish)] Es increíble cómo a veces el Espíritu Santo se comunica desafiándome delante de una sala llena de gente.

    Afortunadamente, volví de nuevo a trabajar junto con mi Biblia y mi diario de oración. Desarrollé un plan a prueba de fallos, práctico, para rezar las Sagradas Escrituras por mi marido. Una vez más, ¡vi que mi corazón ardía! Aquí están algunos de los versículos de mi diario personal que puede que os beneficien a ti y a tu (futuro/a o actual) marido/esposa.

    Para mi (futuro/a o actual) marido/esposa:

    Peticiones generales

    1. Pureza – Colosenses 3, 5: Así pues, dejad muertos vuestros miembros a las cosas terrestres: a las fornicaciones, a la impureza, a las pasiones, al apetito desordenado y a la codicia que es culto de los ídolos.

    Oración: Pide que tu marido sea puro por las razones adecuadas: cariño, conocimiento, y amor a Cristo. Reza para que entienda que el pecado no rompe las reglas, sino el corazón.

    2. Sanación – Salmos 147, 3: Sana a los de roto corazón, y venda sus heridas.

    Oración: Todos tenemos heridas, pero Dios saca de cada mal un bien mucho mayor.

    3. Perdón mutuo – 1 Pedro 4, 8: Ante todo, insistid en la caridad mutua, pues la caridad cubre muchedumbre de pecados.

    Oración: Pide que el amor sea la fuente de todo lo que hagáis, cuando las cosas vayan bien y cuando atraveséis dificultades.

    4. Protección – Salmos 91, 14-15: Pues él se abraza a mí, yo he de ampararle; le exaltaré, pues conoce mi nombre. Me llamará y yo responderé; en la desgracia yo estaré a su lado; le libraré y le glorificaré.

    Oración: ¡Pide que el Espíritu Santo sea un escudo y proteja cada ámbito de la vida de tu marido/esposa!

    5. Agradecimiento – Filipenses 1, 3-6: Cuántas veces me acuerdo de vosotros doy gracias a mi Dios, haciendo súplicas siempre en todas mis oraciones por vosotros con alegría, por vuestra participación en el progreso del Evangelio desde el primer día hasta ahora, persuadido de que quien comenzó en vosotros la buena obra la llevará a feliz término para el día de Cristo Jesús.

    Oración: Ofrécele a Dios gratitud por la vocación que Él ha provisto o proveerá. Pídele ser el instrumento mediante el que Dios continuará el buen trabajo que Él ha empezado en tu marido/esposa.

    6. Confiar en el Señor – Filipenses 4, 6-7: No os inquietéis por cosa alguna, sino más bien en toda oración y plegaria presentad al Señor vuestras necesidades con acción de gracias. Y la paz de Dios que sobrepasa toda inteligencia guardará vuestros corazones y vuestros pensamientos en Cristo Jesús.

    Oración: El estrés no es cosa de Dios. Pide que la paz de Cristo envuelva a tu marido/esposa.

    7. Matrimonio divino – Tobías 8, 7: Ahora, Señor, tomo a mi prima, no por placer sino con elevados sentimientos. Ten misericordia de los dos y haz que vivamos larga vida.

    Oración: Nada más que decir. ¡Este es el deseo que todos tenemos para nuestro/a marido/esposa y matrimonio!

    Protegiéndole (a él o a ella) de pies a cabeza:

    8. Mente – Romanos 12, 2: Y no os adaptéis a este mundo; al contrario, reformaos para la renovación de vuestro entendimiento para que sepáis distinguir cuál es la voluntad de Dios: lo bueno, lo agradable a Él, lo perfecto.

    Oración: ¡La batalla comienza en el interior! ¡Reza por la pureza de mente de tu marido/esposa!

    9. Ojos – Mateo 6, 22-23: La luz del cuerpo es el ojo. Por tanto, si tu ojo estuviese sano, todo tu cuerpo estará en la luz; pero si tu ojo estuviere enfermo, todo tu cuerpo estará oscuro. Y si la luz que hay en ti son tinieblas, ¿cuánta será la oscuridad?

    Oración: Pide por la protección y triunfo sobre la pornografía y las imágenes que han entrado a través de los ojos de tu marido/esposa.

    10. Boca – Lucas 6, 45: El hombre bueno saca el bien del buen tesoro de su corazón; y el malo saca lo malo del suyo perverso; porque de la abundancia del corazón habla la boca.

    Oración: Que las palabras de tu marido/esposa sean una prueba de que su corazón está lleno del Señor.

    11. Oídos – Juan 10, 27: Mis ovejas escuchan mi voz. Yo las conozco y ellas me siguen.

    Oración: Hay muchas voces en el mundo compitiendo por la atención de tu marido/esposa – pídele al Señor que dé Su voz a conocer.

    12. Corazón – Salmos 73, 26: Languidecen mi carne y corazón: ¡oh roca de mis entrañas, mi porción, Dios, por siempre!

    Oración: Pídele al Señor que os dé a ambos Su corazón para amaros el uno al otro.

    13. Brazos – Génesis 2, 24: Este es el por qué el hombre deja a su padre y a su madre y se une a su mujer, y son los dos una sola carne.

    Oración: Mientras estéis unidos el uno al otro ahora o en el futuro, pide que vuestro abrazo os lleve siempre cerca del Señor.

    14. Pies – Salmos 37, 31: La ley de Dios está en su corazón, y su paso no vacila.

    Oración: Pide al Señor que guíe el discernimiento de tu marido/esposa en cada aspecto de su vida.

    15. Dedo anular – Marcos 10, 9: Pues bien, lo que Dios ha unido, no debe separarlo el hombre.

    Oración: Reza por la fidelidad en un mundo de infidelidad. Dios quiere que escribas tu historia de amor desde ahora hasta tu muerte. ¡Entrégate a tu (futuro/a o actual) marido/esposa junto con tus miedos y oración para que ninguno de vosotros olvide nunca que hay tres miembros en vuestro matrimonio!

    By Alfonso | 1 year ago Reply
    • So awesome! Thank you for doing this!

      By Katie Hartfiel | 1 year ago Reply
      • Beautiful !! Will continue praying for my future wife. God is good. Gracias

        By Mario | 1 year ago Reply
  8. I sometimes pray for my future husband, but in general. This really helps nail things down. Thank you!!

    By Gloria | 1 year ago Reply
  9. I’d just like to tell, that there is one mistake
    Heart– Psalm 73:6– Though my flesh and my heart fail, God is the rock of my heart, my portion forever.

    It’s not Psalm 73:6 but 73:26 – I was trying to translate it to Slovene language and figured that out.

    Otherwise, what’s written is really useful. Step by step, nothing to be left our. It will surely help me. I’m deciding for purity and I’m sure, the results are gonna be awesome, because our God is. 😉
    Thanks. God bless!

    By Slovenia | 1 year ago Reply
  10. If you are unsure if God is calling you to marriage, should you pray anyway? How do you know if God is calling you to marriage if you really desire a relationship with him, don’t want to join the nunnery, and want to get marriage. At what point do you get that moment of clarity, even with a spirtual director as a guide? I used to pray for my future husband and write letters. Now I am scared they will never get to him.

    By Marita | 1 year ago Reply
    • Keep praying, and tell God to use your prayers for others if He decides you’re not called to marriage. There’s no perfect clarity moment, just live each moment and discern the moment. If you’re in a relationship discern the relationship itself, should I be with that person? Think does this help me be the best version of myself. If so that is a good relationship and can lead to marriage. That’s when you know, when you’re committed to something.

      By Andrew | 1 year ago Reply
  11. This was a Blessing for me, thank you very much for sharing this. important to God that we obey, his plan and call for our life.

    Olevra Treadway, My Sister in the LORD.

    By Olevra Treadway | 1 year ago Reply
  12. I not sure if he is the one ,o thought he was but now,I am not sure.what am I two do

    By Natasha Bridges | 1 year ago Reply
  13. What should I do

    By Natasha Bridges | 1 year ago Reply
  14. Hello. Sorry but there seems to be a mistake in the verse. Psalm 73: 6, it should be psalm 73:26. Please let it be corrected. Thank you.

    By Mary | 1 year ago Reply
  15. Thank you so much for your insighful article Katie. I really appreciate that you included some verses for each prayer petition. God bless you and your ministry. 🙂

    By Elarny | 1 year ago Reply
  16. Hi Katie so inspiring article,God bless you!May I ask you as well to pray for me to God to meet my future husband?You seem such a nice person 🙂 God bless you and your family

    By Konstantina | 1 year ago Reply
  17. Thank you so much,it was so eye openning,l thank you for helping so many singles out ,especially when it comes to scriptures.

    By Evita | 1 year ago Reply
  18. is a great taught, Is my prayer that youth of today will find this useful idea as we pray 4 our future mate.

    bless u 4 letting God used u

    By Bart | 1 year ago Reply
  19. My gosh I know you are bringing healing to my life in preparation to my receiving my spouse

    By Rose | 1 year ago Reply
  20. I know you mould his heartbeat towards your words before he gets to me in Jésus name, Amen.

    By nelly oko | 1 year ago Reply
  21. Thank you cc,it will help me a lot.God bless you

    By Lucy | 1 year ago Reply
  22. HOW TO USE THE BIBLE TO PRAY FOR FUTURE?

    By ABIODUN EMMANUEL | 1 year ago Reply
  23. This is just great, I pray that everyone does this and we would end up with perfect relationships because before we befall in a rapport we would have asked for His (God’s) presence.

    By Bibian | 1 year ago Reply
  24. Hi I have been trying to get my wife to come home to my kids and myself, I have been praying for 43 days till she said she in love with another man, so I was hurt and said no more, but GOD is good and I’m fighting this devil away with GOD doing my battles I’m not talking to her well not for 3 days now but I believe my wife needs me and GOD has a plan for our lives so thank u and I PRAY that GOD will bless ur life and the things u do in life and the ppl u help in there difficult times in JESUS CHRIST MIGHTY NAME.

    By Aaron | 1 year ago Reply
  25. I am really blessed. I was planning to start praying with one of my daughter for a life partner and this is just timely answered prayer. Will surely give you the result as we move on. God bless and enrich you with more knowledge and wisdom from above.

    By Grace | 1 year ago Reply
  26. Thanks Katie I am sure that God will answer my request and bring me a nice boyfriend into my life

    By mandy | 1 year ago Reply
  27. All that i have is sincere thanks. I have taken up the journey to purity even if after betrayed it in the past. I am seeking the attention of God for a good husband and I do the best I can, pray too but i feel now that my journey just got shorter with help of your prayer points. I know I was meant to find this article. i know the lord has heard me before i read this because he knew i will use it to ask of him what he has already prepared for me.Thank you Katie and everybody here.

    By AGALO | 1 year ago Reply

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