Posts by Ashley Ackerman

Reproductive Rights: How to Not Help a Sister Out

I’ve often heard, “In order to “help” my sisters, I should support them in all of their Reproductive Right endeavors.” But what happens when giving a woman access to all of these things actually impedes her freedom? Let me explain by way of an analogy. Let’s say I buy you a car for your birthday, but I don’ t teach Read more…

Gender Theory and Loving Yourself

I’ve been reading a lot about gender lately, and more often than not, I find arguments supporting the person’s choice to identify as the “gender” they personally feel they are. I think we need to be careful about what we are saying when it comes to “gender” today. We walk a very fine line when we say that by allowing Read more…

El genio femenino

¿Qué significa ser mujer? Es una pregunta que ha invadido mi mente desde que era niña. Recuerdo que me decían todas las cosas que te hacen ser una mujer: desde los cambios en tu cuerpo y en la ropa que usas, hasta los cambios en tus modales. Ser mujer siempre fue considerado la “gran cosa”. Sin embargo, a medida que Read more…

Chastity . . . the sure way to happiness?

I often go for a run after I get home from work. When I first started doing this, it was a pain. I hated it. I would walk in the door every afternoon, look around my living room, and often choose to be lazy and not go. Once in a while I’d really be motivated to go, and so I’d Read more…

The Feminine Genius

What does it mean to be a woman? This is a question that has plagued my mind since I was a child. I remember being told all the things that make you a woman—from changes in your body to changes in the types of clothing you wear to changes in your manners. Being a woman was always considered to be Read more…

Be the Master of Your Own Mystery

Regarding the use of birth control, Fulton J. Sheen says this: “So-called birth control, which assists in neither birth nor control, is based on the philosophy that love is without obligations.” Fulton is on to something—birth control, when used for contraceptive methods, doesn’t help us to control anything—rather, it allows us to give and take without consequences. It gives us Read more…

Debunking the Myths About Chastity

I have been saving sex for marriage for a long time, and I’ve noticed over the years that when people find this out, there are a series of reactions that take place. Most often they begin with utter shock, transforming into sheer horror, and end in misunderstanding about my choice and the belief that I am very naïve, and I Read more…

The Mystery of Sex

So I recently learned that Kim Kardashain took 1200 selfies and sent them to Kanye West as a Valentine’s Day gift, because apparently “all guys love it when a girl sends them sexy pics.” Yesterday I was at the store and I saw the latest issue of Cosmo, and Emmy Rossum was on the cover. She was quoted as saying Read more…

Revealing the “M” Word

I think we can all agree that $100 is a fairly large sum of money. If you had $100 on you, you’d probably want to put it in your pocket, a drawer, a safe, or the bank—somewhere safer than out in the open. I was thinking about this a few weeks ago—how much we value money. How, with money, we Read more…

Graduation & Pure Freedom

This past weekend I saw a lot of pictures on social media of graduates. It’s thrilling beginning a new chapter in life, moving on from the old, comfortable ways we live in to new horizons. I’ve been there on the brink of new beginnings, many times, sweating in a hideous cap and gown, thinking in that moment the world was Read more…

Every Body Talks

Once upon a time I was “just friends” with a boy. But when we were together we would hold hands and were rather affectionate—as if we were dating. This is where it might have been handy if someone had brought my attention to the age-old-adage: “Actions speak louder than words.” We’ve all heard it a million times. And if you’re Read more…

Why Am I Still Single?

“I must not be attractive enough.” “I’m too fat.” “If only I were funnier…” Oh, the thoughts that plague the single person’s mind. I’ve spent a lot of time and energy wallowing in singlehood. I’ve exhausted myself trying to figure out why on earth boys wouldn’t ask me out. How could I have so many boy friends, but none of Read more…