A Letter from a Father to His ‘Not Good Enough’ Daughter

My Dear Daughter, From the moment the thought of you entered my mind, I have been wrapped around your little finger. I have loved you as only a father can love his little girl. I can still see that bright eyed look in your eyes the day you were born—taking in the light and sound and excitement of this big Read more…

Sex Is Worth More

As a college student, I gradually became used to hearing that most people think of sex as something you do on a third date. I’ve even seen contraception given out as if they were candy by some student associations. It isn’t news to anyone that university campus culture promotes the thinking of sex as something exploratory and recreational; however, I Read more…

Dating with Standards: The Checklist

Years ago I attended a high school summer camp retreat, and one night, one of our adult leaders corralled all of us girls into a room, leaving all of the boys on the other side of a closed door. What did this top secret, girls-only discussion consist of? A single woman telling a bunch of girls, “Don’t settle.” In telling Read more…

To all the men in the world: I’m sorry.

An apology on behalf of all women. Dear Brothers, I’m sorry. I’m truly sorry. While I don’t know you personally, I want to write this letter to you on behalf of all women. I hope and pray that it will speak truth in your life and call you to experience mercy in a new way, and a deeper relationship with Read more…

14 Things You Can Do for You and Your Future Spouse This Valentine’s Day!

Store aisles are overstocked with giant teddy bears, exquisite rose bouquets, and LOTS of chocolate.  Valentine’s Day is here and our consumerist culture wants you to know it! Single or not, there are things you can do this Valentine’s Day for the Valentine that truly matters—the one that will stand, sit, and lay by your side until death brings you apart. Read more…

Happy National Singles Awareness Day!

I can be a bit sassy with God. Like, “Hey Big Man I know you have a plan and I should probably be patient but if you could just send me a nice, tall, Catholic man right about now that would be great. I’m waiting…” My favorite thing with anytime I sass Him is He tends to deliver me a Read more…

Are Chick-Flicks Emotional Porn?

Our favorite movies make us feel things. As Hollywood legend Susan Sarandon said, “You go into a little dark room and become incredibly vulnerable. On one hand, all your perspectives can be challenged—you could feel something you couldn’t feel normally. It can encourage you to be the protagonist in your own life. On the other hand, it can completely misshape you.” I experience Read more…

The Challenge of Chastity in Marriage

One of the most challenging and equally liberating teachings of the Catholic Church is chastity. It is undoubtedly a virtue that is radically counter cultural and one that demands great self-mastery and sacrifice. It demands a right ordered love of God and consequently an authentic love for others. My experience of chastity prior to and in married life has been less Read more…

Chastity & The Pro-Life Movement

Recently, a new wave has taken hold of my social media. Many of my well-intentioned friends have emphatically sympathized over the millions of lives lost to abortion while seamlessly arguing that these numbers would decrease if we increased education and access to birth control. They’ve argued that women wouldn’t have to abort their babies if they never got pregnant in Read more…

Reproductive Rights: How to Not Help a Sister Out

I’ve often heard, “In order to “help” my sisters, I should support them in all of their Reproductive Right endeavors.” But what happens when giving a woman access to all of these things actually impedes her freedom? Let me explain by way of an analogy. Let’s say I buy you a car for your birthday, but I don’ t teach Read more…

Dating Through the Decades

She was the best catch I ever made—I don’t know how I got her, the seasoned fisherman said beaming at his beautiful bride of over 50 years. My grandparent’s love never ceases to amaze me. 50 years of marriage seems next to impossible in our world today and because of this our trust in lasting love has dwindled—taking with it Read more…

Are you free to love?

One often hears from young people something like the following: “You’re only young once—now is the time for me get this out of my system and live it up; I’ll eventually settle down later.” It’s easy to fall into this, assuming that my actions in the present have virtually no bearing on who I will become in the future. But Read more…

Why you should break up with the guy of your dreams

I have a bit of a confession to make: I have a dream guy. And I mean that quite literally. Allow me to explain: when I was younger, one person in particular from my daily life would show up in my dreams every now and again. As we grew closer, unsurprisingly, the dreams became more frequent. But when it later Read more…

Friends with (true) benefits

It’s been said, “If I want to know who you are, show me your friends.” In order to steadfastly pursue the good—whether in sports, academics, or relationships—we’ll need the support of solid friends. So, how can we form friendships that last? Aristotle outlines three types of friendship: (1) friendship of pleasure; (2) friendship of utility; and (3) virtuous friendship. The Read more…

15 Tips to Stay Hooked on Porn

I’ve lost count of how many men and women have asked me how to break free from porn. Usually, I offer what advice I can, and then recommend they view the videos, blogs, and articles on our site, here. However, because I’ve spent so much time telling people how to stop looking at porn, I figured it was time to Read more…

After the sin, whose voice do you hear?

The devil has a way of making a sin look like no big deal when you are thinking of committing it, but too big of a deal for God to forgive after you’ve done it. We’ve all experienced the endless voices of harsh thoughts after we’ve made mistakes. So, how do we know which voices are from God? If you’ve Read more…

What’s wrong with modern dating?

Today during my hour of cardio at the YMCA I couldn’t help but laugh at the TV screen as it played a new episode of The Bachelorette. Viewers get a sneak peak of a glamorous dating life. A gorgeous woman has the opportunity to date 15 attractive, successful men all at once! And she gets to kiss them too—every girl’s dream Read more…

Are You Trapped in Lukewarm Love?

“I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot; I wish that you were cold or hot. So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth.” (Revelation 3:15-16) When I first read this passage I was always unsure of why Christ is so direct with his detest for lukewarm Read more…

It’s Just a Date!

As an introvert, people-watching is one of my favorite activities. I love to go to my favorite coffee shop down the street from my office and watch the flutter of caffeinated people around me. I was sitting in one of my favorite coffee shops a few weeks back when I saw something so rare, I couldn’t help but stare and Read more…

Contraception won’t empower you, but this will

I sat on a paper-covered table in the examination room of the medical office. I listened halfheartedly—instead, focusing on my newborn son who lay nearby—as the nurse chatted while she filled out paperwork. All of a sudden, the nurse asked a question which broke through my happy mood. “What kind of birth control are you planning to use?” Such a Read more…

NFP: Not Freaking Practical

When we got married, I knew a few “absolutes.” Tommy was going to snore (I’d heard him do so during naps on the couch), we would probably fight on the honeymoon, there’d be a bit of a learning curve when it came to living together, and we needed to figure out NFP early if we wanted to avoid a February Read more…

How delighted the devil would be to see us do this.

In a recent blog post, Tommy McGrady wrote that “marriage isn’t just hard. It’s sneaky hard.” But a friend of mine read it, and then she responded. “When you learn to communicate, love your spouse more than yourself, learn to compromise and accept that not everything in life is going to be the way you want, marriage is not hard at all,” she wrote.So Read more…

When Dating Is Hard

As a Catholic, I believe that dating is for discerning marriage — for discovering the truth about each other. For deciding whether to choose to love each other until death. Sometimes, dating is fun. You can go to aquariums together and stuff. There are otters at aquariums. Need I say more? Dating is good. If you pay attention, you learn about God and each Read more…

No Perdí Mi Virginidad Cuando Me Case

Nunca le he pegado en la cara a una persona, pero hay momentos cuando quisiera ignorar la virtud del domino propio y dejar los puños volar. Unos meses antes de mi boda alguien me pregunto (conociendo que era una mujer de 29 años y virgen por decisión propia) “¿Entonces tu prometido es virgen también?” Le respondí, “No.” Y su respuesta Read more…

Sexual Healing and “Wholiness”

Tears dropped from her cheeks. I had been seeing this young lady for some time for depression. As the session turned to discussion of her social affairs, she acknowledged that she had given herself to many partners with little romantic interest. She had experienced a past victimization, distant parents, and academic challenges that never had been fully resolved. As we Read more…

Chastity Doesn’t Work for Me

I have found that chastity doesn’t work for me. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always tried and wanted to be a good guy. In high school I wrestled with disordered sexual desires; I didn’t want them, but they were a challenge for me. In my late teens, I heard a great chastity talk and wanted to put it more into Read more…

C.S. Lewis on How to Persevere in Chastity

In Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis offers time-tested counsel on how to begin—and persevere—in the virtue of chastity. First, he says we must really want to grow in this virtue. He notes how a famous Christian—when looking back at his life—realized that his prayer for chastity was really saying something like: “Oh Lord, make me chaste. But please don’t do it Read more…

Mr. (NOT EXACTLY) PERFECT

I was eating dinner with a lovely friend of mine the other night and the topic of future spouses came up somewhere in the course of the conversation. Both of us expressed the confusion we feel about the “perfect guy.” Some people say that there is no such thing as Mr. Perfect, since we are all flawed, while others will Read more…

Sloth and the Restless Heart

People typically think of sloth as simply “laziness,” a lack of a serious work ethic. But the Christian tradition has always seen something more here: St. Thomas Aquinas, for example, defined sloth as “sorrow at the difficulty of a spiritual good.” Consider New Year’s Resolutions—how long do they last? We start off with great enthusiasm—and eventually the mountain starts to Read more…

Gender Theory and Loving Yourself

I’ve been reading a lot about gender lately, and more often than not, I find arguments supporting the person’s choice to identify as the “gender” they personally feel they are. I think we need to be careful about what we are saying when it comes to “gender” today. We walk a very fine line when we say that by allowing Read more…

Dating (and breaking up) with Virtue

Slingshots Remember the story of David and Goliath? The one where a small shepherd boy claims an unlikely victory over a warrior giant in an all or nothing battle with nothing but a slingshot? When you imagine it perhaps you picture David going into battle with only his slingshot and a prayer, but it wasn’t quite like that. Yes, God’s Read more…

Is It Love or Is It Use?

Dating: A Friend You Make-Out With? Recently I was on a flight with a college senior and we began conversing about casual dating, which she defined as “a friend who you make-out with.” As we chatted about it more she admitted, “It doesn’t feel quite right.” So I asked her straight up if it’s a situation where you basically use Read more…

Beware of the Eclipse of the Heart

The pursuit of love: the flowers, the candlelight dinners, the stargazing, the lazy movie nights, the nights out on the town…it’s all so exciting and new! You skim the surface of the mystery of this stranger—excited by what you see, and wanting to know more. You think about each other when you are apart, and you come up with countless Read more…

How Do I Avoid Emotionally Using Someone?

Blank Space, Baby In high school, I was that girl who was constantly on the look out for a guy to fill her blank space. And as soon as I met someone who showed some mutual interest, I’d jump right in. Within a few weeks it was usually official, or at least, it looked that way. He was perfect. He Read more…

Reality TV vs. Real Love

Oh reality TV shows. I’m a sucker for them… along with most of my generation. A few weeks ago, I found myself doing what many girls my age do on Monday nights: watching the Bachelorette. I’ve only watched a handful of episodes, but everyone seems to be talking about it…why not check it out? Lucky for me, I tuned into Read more…

Soltera… Pero No Sin Amor

En mi vida he estado en relaciones románticas, pero ya llevo un tiempo siendo soltera. Recientemente, mi amiga que contó acerca de un increíble chico católico con el que estaba cautivada. Imagínate…se conocieron el día de San Valentín!?! (¿En serio? Pensé que eso solo pasaba en las películas) Me alegré por ella, pero a veces cuando escucho historias de parejas Read more…

Myths about Natural Family Planning

I am at the stage in life where many of my friends are preparing to get married. As they plan their wedding and book the honeymoon tickets, there are three words that often surface as they dive deep into their marriage prep: Natural Family Planning (NFP). The most basic explanation for NFP is that it’s a term used for the process of Read more…

How to talk to friends about chastity . . . without losing them

I am often approached by young people who begin our conversation with the phrase, “So I have this friend…” Many people want to reach out to others but are afraid of being labeled as “judgy” or a “shamer.” We want to be nice, helpful and convicted as Catholics—and sometimes it’s confusing to figure out how all those can fit together. Read more…

I wasn’t the gay kid; I was the outsider.

Do you ever long for the day where people won’t cram you into their own narrative—defining who you should be without ever getting to actually know you? I long for this day—deeply. I am sure we have all felt this way at times. I was the boy who was different. I played with the girls, longed to wear girls’ clothes, Read more…

Learning to love on Spotify

Sometimes I like to listen to the Top Songs on Spotify to find my new jam. And one day, lo and behold, a smooth song came on and I began to sway a bit at my desk, getting excited. Could this be it? Then I looked down. Oh no. Oh, please no. It’s Justin Bieber. As I reached to change Read more…

The Stubborn Faith of St. Philomena

St. Philomena was only 13 years old when she defied and was killed by the most powerful man in the world, Roman Emperor Diocletian. What could be so offensive about a gentle, meek teenage princess? St. Philomena simply refused to break her vow of virginity to the Lord and marry Diocletian. Because of her stubborn faith, she was imprisoned, tortured, Read more…

La Storia dietro alla foto

Ho creato questo blog perché una foto di me e di mio marito si è diffusa in modo virale su Internet. Volevo condividere la storia che si cela dietro a questa foto per le centinaia di migliaia di persone che hanno trovato ispirazione attraverso questo nostro momento dolcissimo. La Storia dietro alla foto Pochi momenti prima di andare all’altare la Read more…

How to be Happily Single

Lately I’ve just been so happy. Happier than I think I’ve ever been. I’m single, and I’m happy. Two words that I thought would never go together. And it is amazing. It’s like I’m finally learning who I am instead of wasting time trying to become who someone else (other than God) might like me to be. It’s like I’m Read more…

Non avevo mai capito quanto un bikini potesse nascondere

Sapete cos’è la cosa che mi fa ridere del vestirsi in modo modesto? La cosa più difficile è iniziare, ma una volta che cominci diventa impossibile smettere. Il mio viaggio con la modestia si è svolto a tappe, incoraggiato da domande che continuavo a pormi. Queste domande venivano da una continua battaglia interiore: volevo da una parte essere integrata e Read more…

Como você sabe se um cara te ama ou quer usá-la?

O passo númeroum para eliminar os caras maus é praticar os princípios de namoro, aqui. A parte principal do namoro é que você só se compromete com um cara, se você teve uma longa amizade com ele, sua família gosta dele, e você pode ver a si mesma se casando com ele. Entretanto, se você quiser saber se um cara Read more…

Wedding Nights and Wedding Rings

  Anyone who has walked the road can tell you…saving sex for marriage is a challenging journey. You can listen intently to people who say it is worthwhile and read all about it and see some concrete fruits of it in your dating relationships, and believe wholeheartedly that it will all have been worth the wait if you enter into Read more…

What to do when chastity gets frustrating

I stepped out of the van and into the cool evening air. As my friend drove off to finish an errand before rejoining me, I glanced across the parking lot at the lit-up building. I am so not going into the dance right when it starts, I decided. After all, in my teenage mind, the “cool people” always showed up Read more…

Fasting for Love

We had only been dating for a month when the semester ended and the bleak reality struck: my boyfriend and I were going to part ways for the long months of summer. During our conversations as the break stretched before us, we discussed fasting for each other and our relationship. Each week, on a specific day, we would each offer Read more…

5 Things People Don’t Understand About Chastity

Chastity, as far as I can tell, is one of the most misunderstood words in the English language. People think it’s repressive, degrading and unnatural. But nothing could be further from the truth! Instead, chastity says that sex, our bodies, and our desires are so good that they are sacred, thus they deserve to be respected and revered. Chastity isn’t Read more…

It’s Never Too Late

In high school, I had a friend in my youth group who had a tendency to live a pretty reckless life. She liked going out and partying. She liked spending time with boys, hooking up and never seeing them again. She would go out and party on Saturday night but come to youth group and church on Sunday. She always Read more…

5 Modesty Hacks To Save Your Wardrobe

When it comes to purity, often the hardest topic to sell to young women is that of modesty. As a teenager I had a close and personal relationship with my closet. Part of me would rather sacrifice my right arm than some of my favorite outfits. However, sanctity comes with sacrifice, and your sacrifice will not go unrewarded. Each time Read more…

Castidad… ¿El ‘remedio mágico’ para encontrar a tu alma gemela?

Quisiera contarles mi experiencia acerca de la castidad, sé que quizás no va a ser ni la más edificante ni la más esperanzadora, pero la comparto porque pienso que las adolescentes que leen su blog tienen que saber que la castidad no es un ‘remedio mágico’ que les ayudará a encontrar al amor de su vida o un ‘parche mágico’ que Read more…

What a First Kiss Tells You

I recently read an article what a first kiss tells you, and it didn’t sit right. The author called a first kiss a litmus test. She wrote that it’s how you confirm that a guy is into you—that it’s how you determine whether he’s confident. And maybe, for her, that’s what a first kiss is. And maybe it is for Read more…

You are innocent, but you are not naïve.

To all my single ladies and single gentlemen out there who haven’t done much dating (or no dating at all), there are 3 terms that I want you to familiarize yourself with, and be able to distinguish between. Innocent: “the state of being free from sin; a lack of guile or corruption; purity” Purity: “the condition of being free from Read more…

Child of Mercy

As she sat across from us, her pain was almost palpable. A family friend sat with my then-fiancé and I as she lamented about her oldest son’s behavior problems. He struggled with nutrition, attention deficit and general disobedience. As she went on, she eventually divulged the real, haunting, deep truth behind her struggle. The root of her pain wasn’t her Read more…

Acalma-te: a vitória do matrimônio vem através da sua crucifixão

Veja quem Cristo está levantando dos mortos neste ícone clássico do Domingo de Páscoa: é o primeiro casal casado. O Matrimônio têm sido atacado desde o começo. Não é nada novo. E Cristo sempre o eleva. À luz da decisão da Suprema Corte na última semana, que legalizou efetivamente o “casamento” homoafetivo a nível nacional (nos EUA), pode parecer que Read more…

Quatro segredos para a cura sexual

Sempre digo que é possível recomeçar, independentemente do passado. Mas o que isso significa? Uma coisa é decidir recomeçar, outra coisa é saber lidar com as consequências do passado. Não é só escutar uma fascinante pregação sobre castidade e assinar um novo cartão de comprometimento de pureza, e então tudo está restaurado. O que normalmente passa despercebido é o longo Read more…

The Problem with Pick-Up Lines

Recently, as I was boarding my return flight to Denver, I was dreading the fact that I couldn’t avoid the uncomfortable experience of getting stuck with the middle seat on the flight. I comforted myself with the knowledge that it was a non-stop flight and that I was exhausted enough that I might be able to fall asleep, even while Read more…

When Chastity Gets Frustrating

I stepped out of the van and into the cool evening air. As my friend drove off to finish an errand before rejoining me, I glanced across the parking lot at the lit-up building. I am so not going into the dance right when it starts, I decided. After all, in my teenage mind, the “cool people” always showed up Read more…

I was 4 when I first asked my dad about sex.

I was 4 years old when I first asked my dad about sex. My dad looked back at me in horror, so I asked, “Isn’t it when two people get naked and French kiss?” Totally innocent question, right? Well, maybe not totally innocent. I had peeked through enough fingers when my parents would cover my eyes during certain movie scenes. Read more…

¿Cómo Usar la Biblia Para Rezar Por Tu Futuro/a (o Actual) Marido/Esposa?

Rezar por mi futuro marido fue una de las claves de mi decisión para permanecer pura en la adolescencia. Básicamente, años más tarde descubrimos que mi decisión de dedicar estas oraciones coincidía con la fecha de la espontánea conversión de mi prometido. Hace pocos años, durante una conferencia, una mujer preguntó cómo rezo ahora por mi marido. Es increíble cómo Read more…

Onde, quando e como posso encontrar a garota certa para mim?

É assim que muitos solteiros vêem o mundo dos relacionamentos: “Deus criou a terra, que tem 515 milhões de kilômetros quadrados, só para registro. Então, Deus criou minha alma gêmea e colocou ela lá fora em algum lugar. Meu trabalho é encontrá-la, e o trabalho de Deus parece ser a de escondê-la de mim por tanto tempo quanto fisicamente possível. Read more…

Should you date while discerning?

No, probably not. It’s one of the toughest struggles, especially for a young person seeking to do the will of God in their lives, to adequately discern a religious vocation while desiring to date.  I tried to walk that line in college and failed more than a few times, hurting several friends in the process. But how can I know Read more…

What if I’ve Met The Right Person At The Wrong Time?

He’s in a disaster of a relationship with a real wretch. She recently went through a rough breakup and isn’t ready to start something new. They work together for a “no fishing from the corporate pond” company. These are the plot lines that Hollywood rom-coms are made of. And if you’re Catholic, we can throw in a few more…. In Read more…

The Theology of . . . Dance?

Nowadays, when people think of dancing, they might assume that the practice is irreconcilable with the virtue of chastity. While this is obviously true of some forms of dancing, I sometimes see articles on the usefulness of partner dances such as swing or waltz for developing chastity. When I read these articles I am usually disappointed, not because dancing is bad, but Read more…

It’s Not Love’s Job to Make You Happy

He makes me happy. She makes me a better person. I can’t imagine life without them. What about the day that he stops making you happy? At some point he’s going to irritate you. She might make you feel like a terrible person down the road. Are you strong enough to be a better person on your own? You might Read more…

What Tim Tebow’s breakup can teach us

Tim Tebow got dumped. Again. This time, the girl is a former Miss USA who allegedly called it quits after a couple of months because she “can’t handle” Tebow’s sexual abstinence. So last week, a New York Daily News gossip blog mocked the famous football player for his inability to “find the endzone,” and wrote that it isn’t the first time that his decision Read more…

Non ho perso la mia verginità quando mi sono sposata

Non ho mai dato un pugno in faccia a qualcuno, ma onestamente ci sono momenti in cui vorrei poter ignorare la virtù della calma e dell’autocontrollo per dare un bel pugno in faccia a qualcuno. Alcuni mesi prima del mio matrimonio, una persona mi chiese (sapendo che ero una vergine ancora a 29 anni per libera celta), “Ma anche il Read more…

Consejos prácticos para vivir una vida pura

¿A quién le gustan los retos? Algunas personas realmente disfrutan de un gran desafío o que le digan que algo es imposible para así poder intentarlo de todas formas. Bien, aquí está mi reto para ti.  Quiero que vayas a inscribirte al próximo gran torneo de golf y ganarlo.  No aceptaré un segundo o un tercer lugar: tienes que ganar.  Read more…

Homosexuality and being a “real” man

Trends come and go. This we know is true. Whether it be “man hair-buns” (shudder), burly beards and smoking pipes, the metro-sexual, or guys wearing tights hundreds of years ago. The point? Though things change, what it means to be a man doesn’t. When we get caught up with caricatures of manhood without focusing on its essence, many people like me Read more…

The Dating Fast: Part 2

Around a year ago I wrote a post about what God had taught me during the year-long dating fast I’d felt convicted to take. What I hadn’t expected when I began that year was that it would lead almost seamlessly into a second year. In August last year I began the Sion Youth Foundation Year, an 11-month program which, much Read more…

Where are all the good men?

As somebody who has written a lot about dating, I have gotten a lot of feedback from single young adults—ladies and gentlemen who haven’t tied the knot and want to, who routinely ask an honest question. “Where are all the good men?” or, “Where are all the good women?” The question is probably rooted in each person’s not so satisfactory Read more…

Ayunando por amor

Habíamos estado saliendo por apenas un mes, cuando acabó el semestre y me golpeó la cruda realidad: mi novio y yo íbamos a tener que estar separados durante todo el verano. Durante una de nuestras conversaciones, hablamos sobre la idea de ayunar por nuestra relación. Cada semana, un día en específico podríamos ofrecer un sacrificio especial el uno por el Read more…

¿Deberías salir con alguien mientras disciernes?

No, probablemente no. Una de las pruebas más difíciles, sobre todo para un joven que está buscando la voluntad de Dios para su vida, es discernir adecuadamente una vocación religiosa a la vez que tiene ganas de salir con alguien. Intenté seguir esa línea en la universidad y fallé unas cuantas veces, haciendo daño a varios amigos en el proceso. Read more…

Sexual Violence: It Could Happen To Me

“Believe me. Listen. You will hear me. I am worthy.” I do not listen to Lady Gaga lyrics often, but lately, her voice has been echoing in my mind. Over and over, I have watched her latest hit music video, which powerfully depicts the devastation of campus rape. Over and over, I hear the agonizing cry, “Til it happens to Read more…

¿Es tu futuro esposo tu ídolo?

Cuando entré por primera vez en el “mundo de las relaciones” tenía un listado de ideales que quería que tuviera mi futuro esposo. No estoy hablando de principios sino sobre una imagen idealista – como los de una película. Sin embargo me di cuenta de que ningún hombre me hacía “sentir” de una forma mágica todo el tiempo, y nunca Read more…

Nunca es demasiado tarde.

En el instituto, había una chica en mi grupo de fe que llevaba una vida bastante desordenada. Le gustaba salir de fiesta, pasar tiempo con chicos, liarse con ellos y no volverles a ver. Ella podía salir de fiesta los sábados por la noche, y luego venir al grupo de fe y a misa el domingo. Tenía una increíble capacidad Read more…

I Never Knew a Bikini Could Hide So Much

  Do you know what’s funny about dressing modestly? It is the hardest thing to start, yet then becomes impossible to stop. My journey with modesty has happened in stages, prompted by questions that I continued to ask myself. These questions came from an internal battle between wanting to fit in and be seen as attractive on the outside, and Read more…

Chastity vs. Duplicity

  I hate it when I fall into duplicity. When I say one thing and do another, I’m not acting like I want to be a trusted person, someone who is passionate about her beliefs. Several years ago, I would not pay much attention to what I put on social media. The internet was a fun, exciting tool that I Read more…

I Wish I Knew The Value Of A Kiss

Your first kiss: Whether it was absolutely magical or horribly awkward and embarrassing, it’s a moment that stays with you forever. I remember those late night sleepover talks with my girlfriends growing up, discussing and wondering what it would be like when it finally happened. What do you do with your head or your hands? How do you breathe with Read more…

Con velo… Por amor a los ángeles.

Hace unos cuantos años, el sacerdote que concelebró en mi boda (el padre Louis Solcia) me sugirió que hiciera algo que no he hecho desde el día en que me casé: llevar velo en la iglesia. Siempre he considerado el velo como una tradición pasada de moda, reservada a ancianas piadosas. Para ser sincera, lo primero que pensé fue: “De Read more…

5 cosas que la gente no entiende sobre de la castidad.

La castidad, por lo que puedo decir, es una de las palabras que más se tienden a malinterpretar en nuestro idioma. La gente suele asociar este término con algo que es represivo, degradante y antinatural. ¡Pero nada más lejos de la realidad! La castidad nos dice que el sexo, nuestros cuerpos y nuestros deseos son tan buenos, que son sagrados, Read more…

Esperanza después del arcoíris

Soy un hombre católico y atracciones del mismo sexo son parte de mi historia. Sin embargo, recientemente la posibilidad de un llamado al matrimonio ha sido escrito en mi corazón – matrimonio con una mujer. ¿Qué? Déjame explicar… No es para terapia Esto no tiene nada que ver con terapia con la intención de cambiar de “gay” a “hetero”. Nunca Read more…

G, L, B, T… ¿Cuál es tu identidad?

Aunque es cierto que las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo son parte de la historia de mi vida, hoy comparto de mí mismo para defender la Iglesia Católica. Si, has leído correctamente, defenderla. Oro para que abras tu corazón y puedas escuchar mi voz. ¿Quién dices que soy?  Muchas personas (aún personas católicas) han tratado de imponer una identidad “gay” sobre Read more…

La Homosexualidad: ¿Estoy destinado a estar solo?

Muchas personas piensan que solo tengo dos opciones en esta vida porque siento atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Estas dos opciones suelen ser: tener una relación con otro hombre para sentirme “realizado”, o estar soltero y solo (y por consecuencia miserable). Se olvidan que hay más opciones en esta vida. Aunque no tengo una relación romántica, no me siento solo. Read more…

Want love? Speak up.

“1, 2, 3…Silent Game! First to talk loses!” I bet most of us are familiar with this common childhood game. We would sit around on playgrounds or in class, trying to hold back giggling, and wait to see who would give in first. Unfortunately, the affect that silence can have within our relationships is far from the innocence of this Read more…

The Vocation Fixation: What Does God Want?

I once heard a religious sister’s vocation story where she described her discernment process as the feeling that God was holding her vocation hostage… and it was her job to negotiate its release! She eventually discovered the truth that Fr. Mike Schmitz puts so well when he says, “God won’t ask you to answer a question that He hasn’t asked Read more…

The Secret to True Love… from a Mattress??

“The marriage bed is an altar.” (Jason Evert) The patterned comforter, comfy throw pillows, and springy mattress may not look like much, but neither does a large stone table. These ordinary places are transformed through the extraordinary mysteries that take place on them. Sitting in a pew, looking up at the altar, I began to realize the depth of this Read more…

Planned Parenthood – The Enemy of Chastity

If you have been following the news this past summer, Planned Parenthood Federation of America has found themselves in a very big scandal. They are facing congressional hearings and the prospect of losing their $528.4 million annual government funding due to the accusations that they are violating federal law by selling aborted baby’s body parts for profit. The tenth undercover Read more…

Single . . . and satisfied?

I’ll be totally honest; I’m a 20 year old who has never had a serious relationship. When I was younger, part of me was ashamed of that. I went to a huge public school where being in a relationship defined a person’s social standing. I wanted a serious relationship so I went on a few dates here and there, but Read more…

What is love?

There is so much information out there about love and relationships. It’s as if everyone is so afraid of commitment because of the high divorce rate that we have psychoanalyzed love to “make sure” it will work. Articles range from topics such as “How do you know if he/she is the one,” “quick fixes for your relationship,” and “signs you Read more…

The Day We’ll Share a Home

“97% of couples live together before getting married.” (- The Knot) I am part of the 3%. I do not know who The Knot surveyed to get this data, or how big their test pool was, but this is the information they have printed in their big bridal magazine for this season. According to The Knot’s poll, 3% of people Read more…

Healing the Thorns of the Past

“God shows no partiality (Acts 10:34). He does not take account of nobility of birth, length of time in his service, or the number of our good works. What counts with God is a devout soul’s increased fervor and more ardent love. He does not consider how you once behaved, but what you have now begun to be.” – St. Read more…

You Are Enough.

You are enough. We all too often forget how powerful these three little words can be in our daily lives. How often do you hear these words throughout your day? Almost never. Instead, we find ourselves glancing in dismay at the bathroom mirror, our vision clouded by what we want to see rather than the beauty of God’s creation before Read more…

How to use the Bible to Pray For Your Future (or Current) Spouse

Praying for my future spouse was one of the keys to my decision to stay pure as a teen. Ultimately, years later we discovered that my decision to dedicate myself to these prayers coincided with the date of the spontaneous conversion of my Husband-To-Be. A few years ago during a speaking engagement, a woman asked how I pray for my Read more…

Affection: Where do you draw the line?

How do we go about setting physical standards for dating? Is it based on long you’ve known the guy? How much he’s done for you? How much you’ve told him about yourself? Drawing lines like this can be like trying to draw lines in the sand—one wave comes and they’re gone. When we try to define our own standards for Read more…

How to Be a Virtuous Date

Virtue is one of those words that sounds a bit lame and unromantic.  Dating tends to make us think of words like: passion, excitement, love and connection … Date with virtue (wha-wha-wha). Buzz kill. Growing up my dad always told me love was a decision, which always sounded too mechanical and cold to be true. But as I grew in Read more…

My Marriage is Not a Fairy Tale

(Also titled, “How you can marry the man of your dreams and still want to punch him in the face sometimes”) A few years ago, as a single woman, I sat across from a young engaged couple at a Theology of the Body retreat during lunchtime. Curious about their “love story,” I listened for 45 minutes on how God wove Read more…

Fight On, My Brother

My Dear Brother in Christ, We see you. We see the fight you are engaged in. We want you to know that you do not fight in vain, nor without gratitude. In the times of knights and castles—in stories such as Braveheart—men went into battle for the protection of women and children, as well as their beliefs. Now, you are Read more…

10 Tips to Stay Chaste

Let’s face it, practicing chastity is tough. When the ache for affection and intimacy comes, it can draw us into places we never imagined: mentally, emotionally, and physically. Here are 10 steps to help you remain chaste: Don’t Settle I have to be honest; I have dated some not-so-good guys in my day. In doing so I came out hurt and jaded. Who Read more…