15 Tips to Stay Hooked on Porn

I’ve lost count of how many men and women have asked me how to break free from porn. Usually, I offer what advice I can, and then recommend they view the videos, blogs, and articles on our site, here. However, because I’ve spent so much time telling people how to stop looking at porn, I figured it was time to Read more…

5 cosas que la gente no entiende sobre de la castidad.

La castidad, por lo que puedo decir, es una de las palabras que más se tienden a malinterpretar en nuestro idioma. La gente suele asociar este término con algo que es represivo, degradante y antinatural. ¡Pero nada más lejos de la realidad! La castidad nos dice que el sexo, nuestros cuerpos y nuestros deseos son tan buenos, que son sagrados, Read more…

4 Myths: Women and the “M word”

Last week a college freshman came up to me after a chastity workshop to “talk.” I could tell she was nervous. She waited until the room cleared and pulled me aside to chat. She started: “Mary, I need to talk to you about … she looked down mumbled …“you know, what you talked about in your talk.” There was a Read more…

Why Porn Can’t Replace Intimacy

Today I was reading an article on a tech blog that was applauding a porn company for its innovative use of technology. In it, the company owners bragged about how close their porn is to the real thing. If resemblance to the real thing is the main selling point of a product, why wouldn’t a consumer look at it and Read more…

Breaking the Addiction to Sin

Everywhere I go, I come in contact with men (and sometimes women) who have fallen into some addictive sexual sin. Most people are looking for an easy way to get rid of their “problem.” My response to them is not what they were looking for, but it does offer hope in a way that only God can offer. You see, Read more…

Top 10 Reasons Not to Sext

About a third of teens admit that they’ve sent sexually suggestive texts or images online or over their phones. Given the fact that sexting has become so commonplace in schools and among celebrities, many people never pause to think about why it’s such a bad idea. Here’s a top ten list, for starters: 1. Any sexual image of a person Read more…

50 Shades of Grey: Confessions of a Former Porn Addict

My first crazy college night out on town consisted of a walk with some of my new friends to the local bookstore. Okay… So it might not be your idea of a crazy college night out, but if you are a fan of books- you know how adventurous this can get. As we began strolling through the bookstore, one of Read more…

The Day I Traded Porn for Love

Until a month ago, I’d never told anyone (except my wife) that I used to be addicted to porn. I kept it hidden to myself, too ashamed to tell anyone. Before my wife found me out, I told nobody. Whenever I was bored, I got online and found hours of images and videos. It was that simple and that accessible. Read more…

Pornography: It’s not just a guy thing.

I unexpectedly had a fifteen year old girl come up to me yesterday and ask for prayer for freedom from a pornography addiction she’d had for years. She probably wondered why I was grinning as she told me. I smiled because I knew what she didn’t—that she wasn’t the only girl to ever watch pornography. I smiled because I loved Read more…

5 Lies in 50 Shades

Hopefully, you’ve already decided that Fifty Shades of Grey isn’t worth your time. But since, as Christians, we’re called to engage the culture for Christ, it’ll be helpful for you to know a few things about it so that you can converse sensibly and convincingly with your friends and coworkers. Fifty Shades of Grey is a best-selling trilogy of novels and now a Read more…

Christmas and the Glory of the Female Body

In the midst of a world that continually pornifies and desecrates the female body, it is powerfully healing and redemptive to recognize that Christmas celebrates the ultimate glory of a woman’s body. Mary reveals what that ultimate glory is: God comes to us through woman’s body! To recognize woman’s body as the “portal” through which Eternity enters time, through which the Read more…

Depression and Porn—My Story

Imagine a massive earthquake on the floor of the ocean near a seaside town. The unseen damage is catastrophic. But later, a visible tsunami wreaks more havoc than its predecessor, ending lives. One hidden event leads to outward disaster. I was that seaside town. I had no idea how my depression impacted my purity—and vice versa. I grew up in Read more…

He doesn’t need your sext: A response to Jennifer Lawrence

Much can be said about the incident last month in which explicit pictures of multiple celebrities were hacked and leaked online. I don’t want to spend time talking about what a stupid idea it is to take and upload explicit photos of yourself (a.k.a. porn), nor do I want to talk about what an even stupider thing it is to Read more…

Why porn shows too little

I was 13 when my family moved away from all of my friends. It was a strange, new culture I was living in, and I had zero friends. I cried myself to sleep every night, quickly slipping into depression. This was before I knew that you are supposed to have a relationship with God, and I constantly questioned what He Read more…

5 Things to Know and Share About Sex Trafficking

1. WHAT IS SEX TRAFFICKING Sex trafficking is a subset of human trafficking  and has been defined by the 2013 Trafficking in Persons Report as a “severe form” of trafficking in which “a commercial sex act is induced by force, fraud, or coercion.” 2. HOW BIG IS THE PROBLEM? Big! Ernie Allen, president of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children Read more…

6 Ways to Protect your Kids From Porn

I’d like to begin this post with a warning from the U.S Justice Department: “Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent and obscene material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions.” If that sounds about right, it will be sobering to Read more…

Why Struggling With Porn Is A Good Thing

Whenever I’m interviewed on the topic of pornography, my interviewer usually begins by reminding the audience of what a ginormous problem pornography is. He then lists some (questionable) statistics on the size of the industry; recounts how this many men and that many women are addicted to it, and essentially, how the entire culture is going to hell in a hand basket. Now all Read more…

Is pornography cheating?

Is pornography cheating? Yes. Oh, sorry…I guess I need to write more. Well, I guess I can explain it a little better. Girls can usually see this issue for what it is. We guys, on the other hand, rationalize, make excuses, or are just simply too addicted to our lust to admit what is staring at us from the computer Read more…

Overcoming Porn Addiction

He was one of the last men in the room; his shoulders slouched and his face dejected. We had just ended a men’s group where we discussed some of the struggles and dangers of pornography and other sexual sins. I could tell he was waiting to talk, as I would occasionally catch him looking over at me, only to look Read more…

7 Spiritual Weapons to Battle Pornography

In this post I would like to suggest seven spiritual weapons that have great effects in the battle against pornography. Here they are, not in any particular order: 1. THE EUCHARIST My bishop once told me of a conversation he had with a Protestant minister: “Do you really believe that the Eucharist is Jesus?” Asked the minister, “and not simply Read more…

Four Things I Learned while Battling Masturbation

It has always been interesting to me that many young men and women struggle with masturbation, but seldom will you find people talk or write about it. As a teenager, I struggled with masturbation and when I look back and reflect on the journey that led me to freedom from my sin, I realize there were several life lessons that Read more…

Are You Finally Ready to be Free? (Part 2)

In my last article we looked at two important approaches to heal from pornography: prayer and accountability. In this article we will look at three more. 3. Counseling Sometimes the struggle for purity needs professional help, and there are plenty of good Christian counselors out there who are willing and waiting to give it. Sometimes people—men especially—can think that admitting Read more…

Are You Finally Ready to be Free? (Part 1)

If you or someone you love struggles with pornography, it’s my hope that the following two blogs will be of help to you as you seek to be free, and seek to be healed. In this blog I will suggest two approaches, and in my next one I will suggest three, that are proven to help those who want to Read more…

Sports and Pornography

Remember when Babe Ruth called his shot over the center field wall or Usain Bolt glided to a world record? Two examples of amazing talent that left us cheering fanatically! (I actually wasn’t alive when Babe Ruth did that, but I have seen the footage; it is amazing!) As a former college athlete and current fan of athletics, there are Read more…

Internet Safety is an Illusion

4 Critical Things Parents Must Do to Protect Their Children from Porn As Christians, we should be the least naïve people on the planet when it comes to Internet safety. Sadly, this is not often the case. The notion of that we can totally shield our children from the sexualized culture in which we live is based on the poor Read more…

10 Ways to Make Sure Your Kids Are Sucked into a Porn Culture

To quote the excellent book by Pamela Paul, “The all-pornography, all-the-time mentality is everywhere in today’s pornified culture” (Pornified: How Pornography is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families). It isn’t merely that young people with an Internet connection have free access to porn all the time (which is true), and it isn’t just that pornography has left the Read more…

How does a woman break free from pornography?

The thing about breaking free from lust is just that, you don’t just break free. It isn’t a wall to be torn down, or a window to be broken. It’s not a bad habit to shake. It can’t be throw in the trash can, or poured out on the ground. Lust becomes a part of you. You don’t break free from lust; you have to get untangled.

How to Fight Porn Addiction Like Saint Augustine

Augustine was no stranger to lust. In fact, if he was living in today’s world, he might even describe himself as an addict. He writes in his Confessions: …I was bound not with the iron of another’s chains, but with my own iron will. The enemy held my will; and of it he made a chain and bound me. Because Read more…