In today’s culture, it’s not surprising when we hear stories of women being wounded by men. As men, we’re facing a serious crisis in masculinity. Many men are afraid to commit, are using other women as objects for their lust, and are more concerned about their cars and video games than the well-being of others. As a result of the passivity of men, many women tend to become more controlling. Men have suffered their own wounds from women, but instead of dwelling on that, let’s take a moment to see what we can do to restore some of the damage that’s been done.
If we have the power to do great harm to women, we also have the power to mend and heal that which has been breached and wounded by sin. If Jesus came to restore all things, then he can also renew our strength to defend the dignity of women.
A chaste man heals. How so? Lets break down three ways we can reverse the damage:
Women know when men are lusting after them, whether they are being stared at with eyes of lust or receiving obnoxious comments on their physical appearance. Gentleman, let’s give women the love they deserve by going after the small things that we so often forget. When you speak to a woman, look her in the eyes, listen, and be attentive to every word. She must know your attention is fixed on her and not on some other part of her body or another girl nearby. Give up your comfortable seat for her, open the passenger door for her, give her your coat, consider her thoughts and opinions. Small things make the biggest difference.
Women are naturally more in tune with their emotions. Chastity gives us the ability to be creative in the ways we show them affection. Genuine acts of love speak volumes to their hearts. Say a joke to make her smile, buy her some flowers, bring her her favorite snack, get to know her likes and dislikes, and speak to that interior longing to be known and to be loved.
Commitment and Clarity
Ah, a powerful trait that will revolutionize masculinity: commitment. Keep your promises. Stay committed to living purity in your thoughts, words, and actions. Be clear in your motives and your intentions. Don’t leave her second guessing. If you stay committed to your word, it will strengthen her trust in men and heal the wounds that have been caused by those who may have abused her trust.
Alex Lambis was born in New York City and his family immigrated to the states from Colombia. He graduated from the University of Central Florida, then served as a missionary in Denver, serving the homeless. He then moved to New York City to speak to thousands of young people about the beautiful message of chastity and human dignity. He is a seminarian for the Diocese of Orlando, and hopes to become a priest one day! He currently runs his own blog, Splendid Glory at splendidglory.com